A month ago I asked for some advice and feedback on telling my wife about my blog. We really try to keep things out in the open in our relationship as we have both had some breaches of trust in the early years of our marriage. My blog “Looking For Chris” and the corresponding email I set up, firstname.lastname@example.org, are in clear violation of that implicit trust. We both know this in our relationship. We share all passwords and have open access to e-mails, Facebook accounts, phones, etc.
I was glad (and not surprised) to hear that many of you also have private/secret blogs. But for me, I am just not comfortable keeping secret this from my wife. I know if she stumbled on it she would feel a great breach of trust. Therefore, after considering options, I have resolved to tell her. One great suggestion was that she actually contribute at times to my posts, and I have considered that.
I hope to keep this space very personal. I hope she will understand the value it has been for me on so many levels. I hope I will still feel free to write knowing she will read what I have read.
Today, I’ll start reading through all my posts to find those places (and I know they are there) where I have been rude, cynical or otherwise disrespectful to my wife and “edit” that content. I have over sixty entries now, so this could take a while.
Then I will share with Marie, the truth about our secret relationship. I will ask for privacy and her understanding.
This is where I am. I appreciate anyone who can add some more insight to this developing plan.